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One Year Today, Sailing Alone

Glenys's picture

It will be one year tonight that I lost my Murray. It's feels it's been forever,just as painful as the first day. The first few months are completely lost to memory. The summer weekends were completely a loss after going to our place at the lake nearly every warm weekend for two years. My CT friends have been extraordinary; I read the cars over again when I'm thinking of you.
Please toast Murray tonight with a Scotch or a glass of Shiraz.

Marie Louise's picture

(post #49034, reply #1 of 47)

Aw, Glenys, I was thinking this anniversary was coming up soon. {{{The biggest of hugs to you.}}}

Jean's picture

(post #49034, reply #3 of 47)

Dear Glenys--Tough going. Raising a 'cup o' kindness' to Murray, and selfishly praying that the good Lord lets me go first. 




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gardencat's picture

(post #49034, reply #2 of 47)

My thoughts and hugs are with you tonight. The first year is really the hardest. You really miss him and the strangest things become triggers. I admire your courage and strength and will toast both of you tonight!

Astrid's picture

(post #49034, reply #4 of 47)

This is from the hospital where I volunteer, it touched me deeply. I hope it will give you some hope and peace during this time.

Thoughts on Loss

We trust that beyond absence
there is a presence.
That beyond the pain
there can be healing.
That beyond the brokenness
there can be wholeness.
That beyond the anger
there can be peace.
That beyond the hurting
there may be forgiveness.
That beyond the silence
there may be a word.
That beyond the word
there may be understanding.
That through understanding
there is love.

~Author unknown.

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Adopt the pace of nature; her secret is patience. Emerson

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Marcia's picture

(post #49034, reply #8 of 47)

I remember when you lost your DH suddenly, too, Astrid, and hope that it's less painful now and happier memories are in your thoughts.


Marcia

Sondra's picture

(post #49034, reply #5 of 47)

Your loss touched us all, Glenys.  So glad you had your time, however unacceptably brief, with Murray.


Toasting Murray in celebration of his life, and you for the way you two shared it.  God bless and hugs.

Marcia's picture

(post #49034, reply #6 of 47)

Dear, dear Glenys - how very sorry I am that losing Murray has been your lot. We all have different things to bear, but losing a beloved partner has to be especially hard.


All good wishes are coming your way, and a toast to you as well as to the memory of your Murray!

soupereasy's picture

(post #49034, reply #7 of 47)

My first introduction to you was the heartfelt letter I read on this site. You were the author. Didn't know you then and really don't know you now. Wept for people I had never known.


Cheers!

Debby's picture

(post #49034, reply #9 of 47)

Dear Glenys--You've been in my thoughts all day today as I've thrown flour and whatnot about in my kitchen, making gingerbread boys and nanaimo bars.  I've looked out at this deluge of snow, hoping that you were sharing this day with a good friend!  I didn't want to think that you were snowbound alone.................You have so many friends that love you; wish we might all be there to share a hug and a glass of shiraz!  Take care!!  And we'll see you soon!


Debby

MadMom's picture

(post #49034, reply #10 of 47)

Words cannot help, but will raise a glass to the Sailor, and to you, and hope that the pain will ease somewhat, although I know it will never go away.  You know I love you.



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Biscuit's picture

(post #49034, reply #11 of 47)

[sniff...]  Already done - single malt, the good stuff..


 



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shywoodlandcreature's picture

(post #49034, reply #12 of 47)

A glass or two of the finest, and a "sliante" to the Sailor from us tonight. Hugs...you know where to find us if the need/desire arises.





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Holly's picture

(post #49034, reply #14 of 47)

Glenys, you are in my heart tonight. God Bless you and keep you tight in His arms.

samchang's picture

(post #49034, reply #13 of 47)

Glenys, I give you not just my sympathy, but my greatest respect. You are a brave, brave woman.

Two glasses of Shiraz for the Sailor and Glenys tonight.

case4's picture

(post #49034, reply #15 of 47)

(snif) Hugs to you Glenys, and a toast to the life of your sailor man.

Lee's picture

(post #49034, reply #16 of 47)

I've been thinking about you this weekend, realizing that the year anniversary of your cruel loss must be near.  Warm wishes are speeding your way, and we'll offer a toast to your dear Murray. 

AnnL's picture

(post #49034, reply #17 of 47)

No Shiraz, but I have a nice Zinfandel that I used in a beef stew for this snowy evening.  I raise that in toast to you and your beloved Sailor. 


Ann
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Ann
"The elders were wise.  They knew that man's heart, away from nature, becomes hard; they knew that lack of respect for growing, living things, soon led to lack of respect for humans, too."  Chief Luther Standing Bear, Lakota Sioux

Adele's picture

(post #49034, reply #18 of 47)

A toast of Pomegranate juice to the sailor and warm thoughts to you.

But, but, it's SUPPOSED to taste like that!

But, but, it's SUPPOSED to taste like that!

tones's picture

(post #49034, reply #19 of 47)

I, too, will salute you and Murray tonight with a glass of red...I think Merlot is open.  I think of you whenever I have the warm, fuzzy thoughts of special CT friends!  Here's to you...

RuthWells's picture

(post #49034, reply #20 of 47)

Here's to Murray, and here's to you, Glenys.  Hugs.


 


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bjb0777's picture

(post #49034, reply #21 of 47)

I raise my glass..a phrase that has helped me over time "mourn the absence of the flame..but let us celebrate how brightly it burned'. it sounds to me that Murray was a flame that burned very brightly. Hugs. Barb


Edited 12/2/2007 8:56 pm ET by bjb0777

dorcast's picture

(post #49034, reply #22 of 47)

So sorry your pain is still so strong!
A toast to Murray, and of course to you too.

AJ12754's picture

(post #49034, reply #23 of 47)

I read this just as I was heading to bed -- but I';; raise a glass of something fine in his honor and memory tomorrow. Best to you Glenys.

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nexus's picture

(post #49034, reply #24 of 47)

I never know the right things to say but I have thought of you often this last year, hoped you were coping and tried to send good thoughts. A toast will be raised. Blessings.


Cheryl

Quilter's picture

(post #49034, reply #25 of 47)

I raise a cup of kindness to you and your dear Murray.  Each time you post, I am reminded of that day a year ago when you told us of your loss.  Remember the good times Glenys. ...to you both....

Heather's picture

(post #49034, reply #26 of 47)

What a tough year you've had. You are a brave woman--I toast both you and your Sailor.

helena1's picture

(post #49034, reply #27 of 47)

A toast to the both of you Glenys. May the time that the memories bring a smile instead of a tear come very, very soon.

KarenP's picture

(post #49034, reply #28 of 47)

    A glass raised to Murray and to you, Glenys.  Wishing there were words that could serve but knowing sometimes silence is golden.

Philter's picture

(post #49034, reply #29 of 47)

A toast or two to you two. Stay well and our thoughts are with you, cheers,Phil and fam.


 


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SallyBR1's picture

(post #49034, reply #30 of 47)

I was wondering when the date was going to be.  I also learned of the horrible news while in \brazil


 


You are a strong woman and with such incredible beauty - I wish you never had to go through this


 


 


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