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How Not to Kill Yourself

DeannaS's picture

I don't usually post in this folder much. But, today I'm gonna. Tomorrow I'm going to a funeral for a friend of mine. He was killed outside Chicago when a suicidal young woman decided that the best way to end it all would be to plow into the back of their car doing 70mph.

Good thoughts for his wife and family are always helpful (and those of the his two coworkers who also died).

http://abclocal.go.com/wls/news/071505_ns_skokie_ax.html

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KarenP's picture

(post #43829, reply #1 of 25)

  I read and was horrified by this story.  We never know when our days are done.  Every good wish for peace and comfort for this family and those near to them.


 

Jillsifer's picture

(post #43829, reply #2 of 25)

Deanna, I'm so, SOOO sorry to hear this. I will hold you and your friend's family close in my heart, and wish I could do more.


Best wishes,


jill


 


 

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Marcia's picture

(post #43829, reply #3 of 25)

Oh, Deanna there aren't words to express what  family and friends must be going though. I'm just so sorry.

Gretchen's picture

(post #43829, reply #4 of 25)

Of course she lived. Geez.  So sorry.  What a waste.

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AmyElliesMom's picture

(post #43829, reply #5 of 25)

I'm so sorry Deanna. What a tragic waste. I'm glad they are charging her with murder.

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Jean's picture

(post #43829, reply #6 of 25)

My sympathy to you and your friend's family. What a tragedy.

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sandermom's picture

(post #43829, reply #7 of 25)

Oh dear, what insane desperation.  My thoughts go to you for her family and for the perp's family, too.  So much pain, and so needless. 

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NanaC's picture

(post #43829, reply #8 of 25)

Oh, Deanna, I'm so sorry for you and the rest of his friends and family.  An awful tragedy!  Why couldn't she just have picked out a bridge abutment???

Fran

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Jean's picture

(post #43829, reply #9 of 25)

Do you suppose she was wearing  a seat belt?

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Gretchen's picture

(post #43829, reply #10 of 25)

SHE, as so many suicide survivors, was "crying out for help" and didn't think (not that someone that sick can)   But most often, the failed suicide people just mess themselves up--make themselves vegetables, paraplegics, etc..  This one deserves NO thought. She ATTACKED another human being--took them "with" her.  It was basically premeditated.

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fitzcindy's picture

(post #43829, reply #11 of 25)

What a horrific waste!  My thoughts go out to you and their friends and family.

pamilyn's picture

(post #43829, reply #12 of 25)

Deanna, I am so, so sorry for your loss. It totaly sucks..I am not sure which person is your friend but it does not matter. What a waste..I don't know what to say.....So sad for the three victims.....MANY lives shattered this week...so sorry..thinking of you...Pamilyn

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AnnL's picture

(post #43829, reply #13 of 25)

Oh, how horribly tragic.  

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DeannaS's picture

(post #43829, reply #14 of 25)

Thanks everyone. It really is tragic. I hope if anything can be learned from this it's that if you're feeling suicidal - get help. Don't take others out with you. Pam - John was our friend. He used to live in Madison and he played in the bands Fez Petting Zoo and Junior High (and some others). Junior High used to rent my basement for practice space.

"As for butter versus margarine, I trust cows more than chemists." - Joan Dye Gussow

sommersu's picture

(post #43829, reply #15 of 25)

Deanna...a terrible tragedy..my warm thoughts and deepest sympathy...for the loss of your friend and for the others who also died needlessly...

MadMom's picture

(post #43829, reply #16 of 25)

This is so tragic.  It reminds me of the guy who parked his car on the tracks, resulting in the deaths of so many people, and at the last minute he changed his mind and escaped unharmed.  Suicide is a terrible choice, but one should never take others with them if they choose to go that way.



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Lexi's picture

(post #43829, reply #18 of 25)

I'm so sorry!  I was horrified when I heard the report on the news.  So senseless, such a tragic waste.  My thoughts and prayers are with you and the families of the innocent victims of her lunacy. 

 

 

Wolvie's picture

(post #43829, reply #20 of 25)

been gone from the board for a week or so - sorry to hear about this loss, Deanna. Condolences to the family, you, and all the friends. Such a waste.


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baker2006's picture

(post #43829, reply #17 of 25)

Heartbreaking! So, so sorry about your loss.


KC


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dixie1's picture

(post #43829, reply #19 of 25)

This is so tragic, my deep sympathy for the families and friends.

Hagatha's picture

(post #43829, reply #21 of 25)

So she plows into the back of their car - they die and she lives?  ((Shakes head.))

iguana667's picture

(post #43829, reply #22 of 25)

My condolences. There was a very touching tribute to Michael Dahlquist, one of the men killed, in the Chicago reader last week. It was written by Steve Albini of the band Shellac and was one of the most moving eulogies I've ever read. It's in the letters section of the July 22nd issue-- let me know if you want me to mail it to you.

ig

DeannaS's picture

(post #43829, reply #23 of 25)

Thanks. I didn't know Michael. Everything I've read about both Michael and Doug makes them sound like guys who were as cool and as loved as John, though. So sad.

"As for butter versus margarine, I trust cows more than chemists." - Joan Dye Gussow

SallyBR1's picture

(post #43829, reply #24 of 25)

I am shocked.

This is too painful to even say anything.

The family and friends of the people involved must be totally devastated. Horrible, horrible stuff

flourpower's picture

(post #43829, reply #25 of 25)

I am so very sorry.  I have a friend who's husband  experienced a similar accident.  He was driving a large consruction truck for work.  A despondent man chose to commit suicide by turning his motorcycle in a u-turn directly into the path of Randy.  His life was never the same.  Even though he knew that this man WANTED to die (he even left a note) and the man's family made EVERY effort to let him know that he wasn't responsible, the horror of the experience was too much for him to cope with.