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Rich02's picture

Just  came back from oldest grand daugters graduation.   Two and a half hours of faculty praising other faculty-  forget the graduates.  Wanted to shoot myself.  This is a small New England College- New England College- and a really great school but the people who arranged the ceremony were more hung up on applauding each other than fucusing on the graduates.  Hope the next eight Grandkids have better luck.  Rich

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We did what we did when we knew what we knew, now that we know better, we should do the better thing.   Maya Angelou

msm-s's picture

(post #52397, reply #1 of 23)

to give the benefit of the doubt, am guessing that they wanted the parents to feel that they'd paid for excellent minds to teach their kids. But still! you are right, the kids are the stars at graduation and hopefully other parents will give the faculty an earful about how wrong that was.

Heather's picture

(post #52397, reply #2 of 23)

What a shame. Did the kids pick up on it or were they in such a celebratory mood that they didn't care?
We went to a 75th birthday party recently and at least half of the speeches focused on the "fabulousity" of the speaker, rather than honoring or roasting the guest of honor. Really boring!

MadMom's picture

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I am now the proud grandmother of an LSU graduate.  LOOOOONNNNNGGGG story about the airline trip to Louisiana, but we finally got there.  They did two things I really appreciated.  First, the commencement speeches were in the morning, and we decided to skip that (so did the graduate, LOL).  Next, LSU being such a huge university, they graduated over several days, taking one college at a time (the college of arts and sciences had 1000 graduates!)  The speaker was the Dean, and he kept it very brief, just mentioning those who had graduated with honors, etc.  We were in the middle of a huge arena (the Pete Maravich basketball arena) and thought we spotted her when she walked in.  Waved constantly, yelled, but she ignored us.  Finally, when the girl we thought was her walked across the stage, needless to say, we had the wrong one!  Turned out she was sitting next to the aisle on our side, so we made huge fools of ourselves, naturally, yelling and clapping, and she blew kisses to us from then on.  Only four more grandkids to go!  (The youngest is 5 and will be in kindergarten next year, so guess I have a lot of graduations to attend!)



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Gretchen's picture

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College graduations are really a mixed bag!!  Davidson does not have a speaker. It is held outside under these huge old spreading trees. VEry very personal, very nice and happy.


Carolina's  is a zoo!! Held in the football stadium with much popping of champagne corks, and I think the various schools also have separate graduations.


DD's from Miami U (the REAL one in OHIO) might rival Rich's experience BUT the speaker (whoever HE was) was a paleontologist and delivered an hour long lecture that I suspect he wrote for his Paleo 101 class. IT WAS AWFUL--and I wrote the president words to that effect--and he agreed!!


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MadMom's picture

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We started off listening to the "live" coverage of President Obama's speech at Notre Dame.  First, the poor girl who gave the prayer has never learned about brevity.  Then the TV followed that with about a gazillion interviews with people who were pro and anti abortion.  We finally just gave up.


I think that some people see graduation exercises as their "fifteen minutes of fame" and by darn, they are going to take advantage of the captive audience.  Sort of like when soldiers return from deployment.  Their spouses, families, friends, etc. are so anxious to see them, yet they have to sit through some general's speech before everyone is allowed to hug the one they have missed so much.  I really liked LSU's idea of separating the commencement ceremony from the speeches, that way those of us (and I'm sure there were many) who could care less about hearing from the speaker could simply go to see the ceremony we actually cared about!


I graduated under a tornado alert.  The president of the university started off with three sentences.  First, he told us the safest place to go if a tornado hit.  Second, he conferred a degree on everyone present who was entitled to receive one from OU.  Finally, he welcomed everyone to the graduation exercises! 




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roxanna's picture

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from Miami U (the REAL one in OHIO) -- oooh, i love your distinction, as my husband is a Miami U grad (1969) and people always assume FL when told, whereupon they are politely informed of their mistake, lol.   =)

Gretchen's picture

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Since "we" were educating people before the 'gaters had even given up the swamps!!  My father was from Oxford, graduated in 1917, I graduated in '57, and DD graduated in '92.    ;o)

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cookgreen's picture

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There is some comfort in hearing about others but I'm still seething about DD's pinning ceremony a few weeks ago. Huge event for over 200 nurses getting theirs pins before their last 3 month practicum before graduating in the fall.

The church they used for this was totally inappropriate, we couldn't see the stage and the sound system behind us echoed after the speakers from the front. Two students from next year's class were MC, dressed in beach wear, apologized before hand for butchering everybody's name and proceeded to do in a pathethic fashion. Unforgiveable even with so many foreign students.

The validictorian was all about herself, basking in her 15 minutes of fame. She was also student council president and literally got herself nominated by hounding students to cast votes and whenever they claimed not knowing who to pick she suggested herself. When my cousin's older DD (35), got wind of it she tried to promote someone more credible, she was shut down somehow.

We also have DS graduating with civil engineering and unbeknownst to us he didn't put in his name for attending the ceremony. We were disappointed so when he received his invitation to attend a luncheon for making Dean's honour list I hoped to attend something. No interest in that either, so no formal recognition of 5 years study. I can't blame him, but worry he might regret it later.

Gretchen's picture

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I doubt he'll regret it, but he might have thought about you and your contribution to his life and whether it might mean something to you.  ;o(

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Heather's picture

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Our DS#1 didn't go to his bachelor's or doctoral graduations--I couldn't say much because I didn't go to my bachelor's ceremony either.
I don't regret my decision and I know my son doesn't.

Jean's picture

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When DD graduated at age 47 we went--outside ceremony--nice. All the rest- forget it-- HS grads included. And the parties you're expected to throw nowadays are mind boggling.


Sometimes I wonder--why is that Frisbee getting bigger?--and then it hits me.



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Heather's picture

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Lots of hoopla these days.

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When DD graduated at age 47


You *do* mean DD graduated when you were 47, right?...otherwise, I'll have to see some ID!

Jean's picture

(post #52397, reply #14 of 23)

LOL. No she went back to college after her family was grown and gone. Finished with a 4.0 and a degree in Art. I am so proud of her. Right now she has a piece hanging in the Muskegon Art Museum Regional--a juried exhibit--a print done on paper she made herself.


Sometimes I wonder--why is that Frisbee getting bigger?--and then it hits me.



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Gretchen's picture

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That is especially neat--to "find" your true calling in adulthood. Congratulations.

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Marcia's picture

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That's impressive. Congratulations to your DD.

MadMom's picture

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Congratulations to her!  Would love to see the print; do you have any pictures?  I admire anyone who has the courage to go back to school after the "normal" age.  I worked with a woman who was about 30+ who was getting a degree in accounting from Tulane.  She really had to juggle work and school, but she managed, and I admired her for it.



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Not One More Dime! Not One More Life! Not One More Lie!

End the Occupation of Iraq -- Bring the Troops Home Now!

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chiquiNO's picture

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I just catered a Graduation luncheon for two young ladies who graduated from Tulane.  Ellen de Generes was the speaker.  She came to New Orleans a couple of days early and did more of her endless Katrina recovery work before speaking at the graduation.  I asked one of the young ladies how her speech was and she said she seemed kind of sad, but was funny in her speech.  They had to be at the auditorium at 8 am and the graduation ended at 1:30!!!


 


Everyone is right about the parties after.  Both girls were from out-of-town so aunts, uncles, siblings and grandparents and parents  flew in for the festivities!!!  26 guests that came from COlorado and Maryland!!!!!!!  Fancy lunch prepared by yours truly and a great time had by all!!!!  But I can only imagine the costs!!


 

 

MadMom's picture

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I can only imagine how much all the family spent going to DGD's graduation, but guess it was worth it after all.  There were 15 of us, mostly family, but including DGD's boyfriend (who was a real trooper and a love) and her best friend from Denver.  Everyone went out to eat Thursday night at her favorite restaurant in Baton Rouge (DD and I arrived late, see our plane adventures above), then we had breakfast together on Friday, which was graduation day.  I would have gone to hear Ellen DeGeneres, but afraid that Mary Landrieu left me cold, so glad we missed that.  It must be bittersweet for the parents.  On the one hand, they are glad to see their child graduate from college, but on the other hand, it's just one more milestone toward becoming a full-fledged adult.  DGD, her boyfriend, and best friend, celebrated graduation in New Orleans, I think they went to the casino (haven't heard if they won or lost!) and stayed over with a friend of the boyfriend who lived on Carrolton Ave.  It was a grand time, but at 39, I am much too young to have a granddaughter graduating from college!



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Not One More Dime! Not One More Life! Not One More Lie!

End the Occupation of Iraq -- Bring the Troops Home Now!

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chiquiNO's picture

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LOL  Know what you mean!!!!  My baby boy will graduate from LSU next year....When DD graduated from UNO they had a separate graduation for the business school.  It was small and didn't last too long.  It was just long enough to honor the students and make the parents proud!!  DOn't have a clue what LSU will be like...but from your experience....might just skip the speech part, too!!


 


I have a niece sho lives near by the Camous with a huge house.  Might have the party there!!  Well, I have a year to plan it!! LOL


 

 

MadMom's picture

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LSU evidently holds separate graduations for each college in the University, at least the larger ones, which holds it down.  Can you imagine sitting through 3000 or 4000 graduates' names being called individually?  If I were you, I would check to see who the speaker is.  It might be someone you want to hear, might not.  I don't know if Landrieu was speaking for every college or just for the Arts and Sciences, but DGD wasn't interested in hearing her, so we gladly skipped it. 



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Not One More Dime! Not One More Life! Not One More Lie!

End the Occupation of Iraq -- Bring the Troops Home Now!

And Take Care of Them When They Get Here!

Gretchen's picture

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I think Ellen can be very "poignant" which may have been these ladies's "sad".  She is so great.

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Heather's picture

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Wow! Good for her!
It's never too late, my birth mother got a bachelor's degree in psychology at 72.