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teebee's picture

My DH's sister was remarried this summer. She had taken back her maiden name after her first marriage ended, and is not using her new husband's last name. Her two sons (11 & 13) who live with them have their father's last name. Any ideas on how I should address their Christmas card? Thanks.

Jean's picture

(post #51518, reply #1 of 35)

I wpuld address it to her & Family.



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shywoodlandcreature's picture

(post #51518, reply #2 of 35)

Yup. That works.





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Gretchen's picture

(post #51518, reply #3 of 35)

You could  do   Sue Jones/David Smith
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Aberwacky's picture

(post #51518, reply #4 of 35)

Sounds familiar! I returned to my maiden name after my 1st marriage and kept it after remarrying.  My sons (and stepsons) have my husband's last name.


I don't know how the pros would do it, but as someone on the receiving end, here's how I like to have cards addressed:


Susie Jones, David Smith and Family


Leigh


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Gretchen's picture

(post #51518, reply #5 of 35)

I do think acknowledging the new husband is good.

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teebee's picture

(post #51518, reply #6 of 35)

Thanks, everyone, for the help! I think I will go with Leigh's suggestion. This is a first marriage for her husband, so he doesn't have children (and there likely will not be anymore, since my SIL had such a hard time carrying her last son).

Sometimes addressing cards/invitations can be tricky. I always forget to use my DBIL's military rank when addressing their cards (he's just "Matt" to us, and is not easily offended; in fact, he would more likely be upset if I addressed him by his rank).

Thanks for the help--off to pick up my Christmas pictures!

TracyK's picture

(post #51518, reply #7 of 35)

I think Leigh's suggestion is good... acknowledges everybody. :-) That said, I do think Christmas cards don't need to be as formal as, say, wedding invitations or the like.


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thecooktoo's picture

(post #51518, reply #8 of 35)

How about:


Y'all                                                                                


1220 Main Street


Anywhere, USA 11111


 


Jim

teebee's picture

(post #51518, reply #9 of 35)

Come on! We have had this discussion before! "Y'all" is singular! In order to address everyone in the household, it should be addressed to "All Y'all." That is the plural of "Y'all." Thanks for the suggestion! LOL

The sad thing is, I'm sure however I address the envelope will be wrong!

Jean's picture

(post #51518, reply #10 of 35)

How about OCCUPANT?



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BossHog's picture

(post #51518, reply #11 of 35)

We had the same discussion over at BT about the difference between "Y'all" and "all y'all".

Our conclusion was that "y'all" is plural. Proper grammar dictates that you change to "all y'all" once you reach the number of people you can fit into your pickup truck.

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Marcia's picture

(post #51518, reply #13 of 35)

That sounds about right to me. LOL

MadMom's picture

(post #51518, reply #14 of 35)

Where on earth are you from?  In the south where I was raised, y'all was plural.



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thecooktoo's picture

(post #51518, reply #15 of 35)

How about Youin's all...Pittsburgh Ibelieve, and that sure ain't south!


Being a native born southerner (West Virginia) and certified red neck, I will stick with my original advice...Y'all is definately the appropriate heading for your envelope.


BTW, have you ever tried to figure out how to order drink when you are in the deep south...


I still get confused..is it coke, soda or pop...When we lived in Macon everything was coke...if you wanted a Pepsi, you ordered a Pepsi coke.  West Virginia was always "pop."  I would assume it still is.


Jim

DJHinAZ's picture

(post #51518, reply #18 of 35)

No, no, no, Pittsburghese is "yinz".
That's both singular and plural.

<from a former Pittsburgher>

thecooktoo's picture

(post #51518, reply #19 of 35)

You have to be from North Pittsburg, because on Mount Washington it's Youins.  I spent a lot of time in Pittsburg, but never lived there, so my info may be suspect.  But I did build four huge nursing  homes there back in the early 80's.  Replaced the old hospital up on top of the mountain in Scott township.


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teebee's picture

(post #51518, reply #23 of 35)

I lived in Mount Washington until I was 7. My mom still says Younz. I am not sure of the correct spelling. My dad grew up in Brookline, and I have relatives there still, as well as in Penn Hills.

Actually, there should be a plural word for "you." The French language has different words for a you and you all. It's been about 25 years since my last French class, however, so I'll not attempt a lesson (unless someone else wants to provide it!).

schnitzel's picture

(post #51518, reply #26 of 35)

Actually, there should be a plural word for "you."

Whadsa madda wid yous? ;·)




MadMom's picture

(post #51518, reply #27 of 35)

I remember when a good friend of mine lived in St. Croix, and she told me once that the singular of mongoose was "mongoose him".  She asked if I knew the plural, and of course, I guessed something like mongeese.  She laughed and said, "No, it's mongoose dem."



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TracyK's picture

(post #51518, reply #29 of 35)

There is a plural for "you."


It's "you." :-)



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(post #51518, reply #31 of 35)

Good one!

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DJHinAZ's picture

(post #51518, reply #30 of 35)

No, not from N. Pittsburgh... more from the SW side. Monroeville.
And my parents were VERY careful to make sure I didn't grow up with an accent. The only accent I have is somewhat of a generic "northeastern" accent, although after about 16 years living in the west that is going away.

I've seen it spelled "yinz" and "yunz", but never "youins".

FL.Cook's picture

(post #51518, reply #24 of 35)

I was born and brought up in Pittsburgh.  Lived in Squirrel Hill and Shadyside until I went away to College in MI.  I never realized that we had an accent until I moved to MI.

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KitchenWitch's picture

(post #51518, reply #25 of 35)

What accent? We don't have an accent.

It's the rest of yunz guys that talk funny.

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FL.Cook's picture

(post #51518, reply #32 of 35)

True, true!!!

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Jillsifer's picture

(post #51518, reply #33 of 35)

You do too, and you have funny diction. ;-)


I KNEW you were from Pittsburgh the first time I had a real chat with you. Or should I say "I knew you were from Pittsburgh whenEVER we chatted for the first time."


(My late lamented Grandma Neenie used "whenever" in exactly the same way that you do.)


 


 


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KitchenWitch's picture

(post #51518, reply #34 of 35)

  leave my diction out of this.



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Jillsifer's picture

(post #51518, reply #35 of 35)

Just jaggin' ya.

 


 


 I wil honour Christmas in my heart, and try to keep it all the year.

Christmas is the season for kindling the fire of hospitality in the hall, the genial flame of charity in the heart.

-- Washington Irving

chiffonade's picture

(post #51518, reply #12 of 35)

I'm sure there are people in my life writing my last name in pencil.  I just went back to my maiden name and this is the name that will be on my tombstone.


I'd address it to her (using maiden name) and family. 


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madnoodle's picture

(post #51518, reply #16 of 35)

I don't think it's difficult.  I have my own surname; my husband and kids all share his surname.  Most of my friends are in the same situation.


Sue Jones and David Smith and Family


works for me.


Quite frankly, I'm usually so excited to get real mail that I don't even notice how it's addressed.


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