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MadMom's picture

Would it help if we sort of keep track of each other?  I started on South Beach a couple of days ago, and am determined to get back to my pre-gobble weight of minus 3/8 of a Sally.  I'm afraid I was well on my way to losing half a Sally, when something got into me (like a lot of chocolate, etc.) and I have gained most of it back.  I'm trying to get a jump on the New Year by starting a bit early.


Anyone want to join me in dieting...er...better eating?




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Jean's picture

(post #57052, reply #1 of 205)

If I could only give up chocolate and cheese, I'd fade away in no time. (and if wishes were horses, I'd own a stable)


Happy New Year.  May it bring many reasons to celebrate!


 

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MadMom's picture

(post #57052, reply #2 of 205)

Better yet...if chocolates and cheese caused the fat to melt away, wouldn't we all be svelte? 


I'm reminded that after cleaning out my fridge, I need to go clean out the pantry.  Hide all of DH's "snacks" and get rid of about ten pounds of potatoes that I will be tempted to eat if I don't deep six them.




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AJ12754's picture

(post #57052, reply #4 of 205)

For me it is all about fresh bread with butter -- I would give up sweets entirely If God would just make bread and butter guilt-free.

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deejeh's picture

(post #57052, reply #62 of 205)

Or as my Scottish granny used to say, if wishes were horses, then beggars would ride...


For me it's cheese, chocolate and sugar...


deej

AJ12754's picture

(post #57052, reply #3 of 205)

I wish you the best of luck on your diet!  I have a friend who did very well on South Beach and another who had great success with Weight Watchers.


I just can't diet anymore ...  I have spent the better part of my life looking at magazine covers and celebrity pictures and thinking my body was just wrong ... a curse I attributed to (as Janeane Garofalo said) "the genetic betrayal that is my legacy."  And I thought that when I weighed less than 100 pounds and fight thinking it now when I weigh significantly more.


When my daughters came to live with me at 4 and 5, I simply refused to pass on my craziness and I resolved then to ban the word diet from the house.  I also refused to buy all the women's (and now teen) magazines that act like the main things a woman thinks about are men and calories and clothes. (End of rant I promise).


We do talk about healthy eating and we talk about exercise and we all take dance classes and walk ... I resolve things like increasing the mileage on my daily walk or cooking more with vegetables and trying to expand our food choices.  I resolve to get regular check-ups and stuff like that (my family has heart disease on all sides).


How about if you keep me posted on how your diet is going and I'll keep you posted on the walking thing -- I do about 2.5 - 3 miles 5 times a week now and I am trying to get to 4 - 5 miles a day by adding about a .25 mile every week or two.  I almost always walk from 3-4 pm so I can listen to Fresh Air on NPR... it helps alleviate the thing I hate most about exercise -- the boredom of it.


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MadMom's picture

(post #57052, reply #5 of 205)

I have to say that I'm not dieting out of vanity.  I found that when I put on so much weight during my mother's long illness, it affected my health negatively.  My knees, which tend toward arthritis, kept giving way whenever I would try to walk or stand.  I could not walk long distances without losing my breath.  Once I managed to lose almost forty pounds, I felt twenty years younger.  Now, I've allowed a lot of the weight to creep back on.  I realize that I will never weigh what I weighed in my twenties, and that's fine.  I would be happy to weigh what I weighed when I went in to deliver my second DD...and that's twenty pounds more than I weighed when I delivered my first DD, LOL. 


I'm exercising at least three and up to five times a week at Curves.  I like it, because it's only women, so it turns the exercise routine into a gossip fest, which is fine with me...makes the time pass quicker.  I figure that I'll be okay if I go back to eating correctly (one of the things I like about South Beach is that it's not so much a diet, after the first phase, as it is a different way of thinking about food.)  I, too, have had success with Weight Watchers.  Actually, every program I've ever tried has been successful; I just tend to leap off the wagon. 




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knittermom's picture

(post #57052, reply #6 of 205)

I'll do a check-in. I'm about 15 pounds below starting pregnancy weight, but I need to lose some more. I was losing at a steady pound a week, but got a little derailed with hurting my ankle and holiday eating. For me, it is ALL about eating to keep my blood sugars under control (which includes portion size); the weight just drops off then, especially with nursing and exercise.

Kris

AJ12754's picture

(post #57052, reply #7 of 205)

I'm sorry -- I didn't mean to imply that vanity was why you were dieting ... only why I got so caught up in it as a teen -- to the point of being hospitalized once.


Later, as an adult, I was able to maintain my weight relatively easily (not too thin and not too heavy) simply with regular exercise, until I went off estrogen (remember the big scare a few years ago?) about 3-4 years ago. Going off cold turkey (which the doctor was fine with by the way) completely knocked my system for a loop.  I had terrible joint pain which which of course the doctor told me was completely unrelated (thus sending me on a series of specialist appointments to figure out what was the problem).  Of course now studies tracking those women who went off say that joint pain was a common problem.  I could barely get around much less exercise daily.  I felt ancient and I wasn't yet 50.  Gradually as my body adapted the pain diminished but it took almost two years to feel like myself again.


The thing I like best about exercising daily is how much better I sleep and it helps me focus more on how I feel than how I look.  And I love walking outside, it just seems to lift my mood even if it is pretty cold out.


 


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TracyK's picture

(post #57052, reply #8 of 205)

Vanity is pretty much why I am dieting. Again, LOL.


I lost 40 pounds a couple years ago but lo and behold, when you stop paying attention and treat life like your personal all-you-can-eat buffet, it creeps right back on... not all of it, but enough to make me angry.


Don't get me wrong, I definitely appreciate the feeling better/being healthier aspect... but for me, the better I look, the better I feel... call me shallow if you must, but I don't like looking like my own older, fatter sister! (Not any reflection on my actual older sister, who is in fantastic shape even after two children.)  :-)


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       -- Carrie Bradshaw

AmyElliesMom's picture

(post #57052, reply #15 of 205)

I'm sort of with you on the vanity thing, too. I LOATHE wearing the same size clothing as my mother. I've always been "curvy", but not truly fat.

I'm now truly fat. A size 18W ain't "curvy" on any body.

My "vanity" goal is to be able to look at myself naked in a mirror without counting fat rolls.

I figure if I get down to a size 14/16W again, I'll be able to do that.

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AJ12754's picture

(post #57052, reply #112 of 205)

Me calling you shallow would be like the pot calling the kettle black :-)


But I do love how I feel when I exercise ... dieting just makes me feel irritable.


"Truth is the engine of our judicial system." Patrick Fitzgerald

Cave obdurationem cordis

Risottogirl's picture

(post #57052, reply #17 of 205)

Exercise is the key for me (because I eat cheese every day, sometimes 2-3 times and no way am I giving that up)


About 6 months before I turned 40 (I am 43 now), I had the realization that my weight really  crept up during my 30s. I decided it wasn't going to get any easier after 40 so I basically just adjusted my portion sizes (they should never be the same as SO's, he is 6'3", 185 lbs with a lightning speed metabolism even in his 40s), replaced most "white" stuff (bread, pasta, rice) with a whole grain version, stepped up the exercise a bit (but still a routine that I could live with), and doubled my water intake.


I didn't tell a soul what I was doing because, frankly, I wasn't interested in any input, I knew what I had to do - not rocket science - eat less, move more. When I added weights to my cardio, I put 5 lbs back on, but I still dropped another size. After about a year, my net loss was 35 lbs and I have kept it off now for 3 1/2 years.  No one noticed for almost 25 lbs, then just SO and my Mom. SO never noticed any change in what we ate, since nothing was cut out.


So, knock on wood, I can continue as I have been. I definitely feel better as a size 8-10, than a 14-16. No way I am going to shop for clothes in the larger sizes again. One rule I have is absolutely NO elastic waist pants for street clothes. None. Ever. Even if they are stylish and cute. I want to feel it immediately if my pants feel tight.


Edited to add that I don't do "fake" food, now or then. No FF salad dressings, "cheese", aspartame, Splenda, etc. I do drink skim or 1% milk, but I always have. I'd always rather have a dab of the real thing.



Water is a great ingredient to cook with, it has such a neutral flavor


Bobby Flay


Edited 12/30/2005 2:16 pm ET by Risottogirl


Edited 12/30/2005 3:12 pm ET by Risottogirl

Water is a great ingredient to cook with, it has such a neutral flavor - Bobby Flay

Harborcon's picture

(post #57052, reply #19 of 205)

Everything you said.  Plus, folks get hung up on what the scale says, rather than how they look and feel, and how their clothes hang on their bodies.  When I add something (or change something) in my cardio/weight program, I will see a couple of pounds extra on the scale.  But within a week or so, my clothes are a bit looser and my shape a bit different and, eventually, those extra pounds (plus even more) are gone.  Muscle weighs more than fat so adding muscle or replacing fat with muscle can initially reflect a weight gain.  But fat gets burned in muscle, so the more muscle you have, the more fat you can burn (even while sleeping!).  And I'm not talking about big lumpy bumpy muscles; I'm just talking about muscle mass.  Good for you, Risottogirl!

Risottogirl's picture

(post #57052, reply #23 of 205)

When I was "actively" trying to lose that 35 lbs, I weighed myself every 10 days or so...at the gym, because we didn't own scales. Now we have fancy schmancy scales(SO's idea, he has used it once) and I weigh myself about once a months. I can feel it in my clothes.


Water is a great ingredient to cook with, it has such a neutral flavor


Bobby Flay

Water is a great ingredient to cook with, it has such a neutral flavor - Bobby Flay

AmyElliesMom's picture

(post #57052, reply #24 of 205)

I don't get hung up on my weight, either. I'm really large chested, and on the tall side, so for me, "ideal" weights are useless. I'm SUPPOSED to weigh 135 or something like that. B/C of my bosom, if I weighed that, my body would actually weigh something like 125 and the rest would be chest. Currently, I'm a 38G. When I weigh 145, which is a goal of sorts, I'm a 38E. So, when I weigh 145, I actually weigh 135 and my bosoms weigh in at 5 pounds a piece. And yes, I weighed them once. (okay boys secretly reading this thread, stop laughing)

So I don't get too hung up on weight. I go by what size jeans I fit into and how jiggly I am.

Too bad the only people who know how to run the country are busy driving cabs and cutting hair. ~ George Burns

 

Save the Earth! It's the only planet with wine and chocolate.

Syrah's picture

(post #57052, reply #43 of 205)

Your philosophy is similar to mine, and I do find it works. The other thing I like to do is eat vegetarian dinners twice a week. This is really helpful to me because I find I do not cook a variety of vegetables every night. Being a "vegetarian" means that I have to rely on vegetables in the dish, and then variety comes naturally.

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AJ12754's picture

(post #57052, reply #113 of 205)

I loved your post -- I got some good ideas for me out of it too. 


I didn't really start putting on weight until I starting homeschooling my girls (one of them has a learning difference that need extra attention in the middle school years in particular) ... and it was not so much that I was home and snacking or eating more than usual as that I never found time to exercise (lesson planning just sucked up time since I had been a teacher and didn't want to use a canned off-the-shelf curriculum).  And then there was that whole ugly joint thing that I am finally past.


Now that the girls are in high school and I am turning 52 in three weeks (I didn't get to be a mom until my early 40s), I turn to my mom for inspiration -- she walks four miles almost every day and she looks and feels great at age 74.  And she did not begin that walking program until she was 55.


When I tell her I want to travel someplace and my dh can't get away, she just says, "How soon do you need me packed?"


TOTALLY with you on the elastic waistband ... so seductive but ultimately they betray you!  And I never do the fake food either ... I would rather do rigid portion control any day of the week.  And at restaurants, where the portions are enormous, my husband and I always share an entree and so do my girls -- we are trying to help them get a realistic assessment of what portions are.


I am going to try that 2x the water intake thing...


Happy New Year!


AJ


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Eisje's picture

(post #57052, reply #72 of 205)

You have my admiration for resolving not to pass your problems to your kids. I happen to work with young women with (among others) eating problems, it really is not easy to deal with, takes a lot of courage and determination on their part. Keep it up!

AJ12754's picture

(post #57052, reply #115 of 205)

It's one of the reasons I don't weigh myself (although there is a scale in the house  that my husband uses) -- in the bad old days of the eating disorder I would weigh myself several times a day and the day would just be ruined if I had gained a smidgen.  Finally my doctor told me that I had basically achieved perfect weight control (I could almost have told you to the ounce what I weighed even without a scale) but that everything else in my life was pretty much gone (dropped out of college, health awful, you know the drill).  And I had to choose between actually having a life or having perfect control. So I gave up control which for me meant that I stopped weighing -- forever.


I was desperate to go back to school (loved it) and I had to gain weight to be able to go back) and then after I had gained just a little (I think it was only about 6-8 pounds), I could not believe how much better I felt.


When my girls' friends were in middle school, all of them (and my girls) went through a period of daily weighing themselves and talking about getting fat -- and I had to really work NOT to overreact ... I let them do it and never reacted to the chatter about this or that pound.  I always made sure that they exercised (easy because they love dance although I picked a studio where the dancers come in all shapes and sizes and the faculty NEVER mentions weight to a dancer -- the studio's owner is religious about dance being for EVERYONE).  I served the same food as always, and never talked diet with them although I did a nutrition segment as part of biology. And the whole daily weighing thing passed in about 3 weeks.  I haven't seen either one of them step on a scale in about 18 months I think and both are height-weight proportional.


Still knocking on wood though that we make it unscathed through the rest of the HS and college years.


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Edited 1/2/2006 10:17 am ET by aj12754

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helena's picture

(post #57052, reply #116 of 205)

Thanks for sharing that, I have almost been there myself. I recognize the daily weighing and letting that control my day and my mood for the day. Which is exactly why I need to stay away from the scale also. I sometimes wonder where the thought that our weight is what defines us comes from. I'm smart enough to know better, yet is always somewhere in the back of my head.

MadMom's picture

(post #57052, reply #117 of 205)

I weigh daily, and it is really more of a habit than anything.  I do it every morning, in my pj's, after I brush my teeth, etc.  I don't obsess about it, but I can certainly see how it can become a bad thing to do.  In my case, it's all part of the mental game I play to make sure I'm on track.  I respect anyone who doesn't do it, as I've said before, if it works for you, do it...if not, forget it!



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Not One More Dime! Not One More Life! Not One More Lie!

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helena's picture

(post #57052, reply #144 of 205)

You sound like my mom, who has weighed daily for as long as I can remember. The scale was in my bedroom when I was a kid and I saw her come in every morning :o). And you are so right, one should do what works best, and that can be different for every person. To me weighing everyday is inviting in the obsessing.

Eisje's picture

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Helena, I know what you mean about knowing better. I find it hard sometimes too to think straight, especially with all the attention attributed to weight and having a certain type of body. The hardest part of my work is trying to tell an anorexic girl that the way she looks or wants to look is not healthy, while she can pick up any fashion mag and point to any way to skinny model that is portrayed as the health and look standard.


But hey, I am with you on eating well, excersizing and not obsessing about the pounds (or kilo's in our case =). I can do better in the excersizing department, I used to walk 10 km 3 times a week, don't do that any more, too dark outside and I am way too lazy. =)

elizaram's picture

(post #57052, reply #122 of 205)

Ok, I'm in, LOL. I'll never weigh what I did in college, but Grant turns 4 next week and I'm still carrying around the "baby weight." It's all in my belly and chin, which is like, really unattractive. (Why couldn't it go to my boobs? It's physically impossible for me to weigh them, but my guess would be about 1/4 pound each. Yeah, the size of an average hamburger patty... sigh.)


I did South Beach a couple of years ago with some success, but fell off the wagon, mostly because I couldn't stand being denied foods I really liked. (For me it was beer!) The diet program I've had the most success with in the past was one with religious trappings, but the underlying principles were simple nutrition: Eat only when you are hungry, give your body exactly what it is craving at that moment, and stop when you feel satiated. Basically a combination of self-control and portion control. I'd like to get back to that.


My goal is to lose 20 pounds and weigh 135. That may sound low for my height, but I've always been on the weird side of the charts (I am tall but have a very small frame). It's 15 pounds more than my college weight, and more than I weighed pre-baby, but I think it's a doable goal. I've signed back in to FitDay and made my log public (eep). Hopefully having to write down what I eat AND knowing people will be looking at it will keep me from those mindless snacks. Here ya go: http://www.fitday.com/WebFit/PublicJournals.html?Owner=elizaram


Is someone planning to post a weekly check-in thread?



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Jean's picture

(post #57052, reply #123 of 205)

Today I made some asparagus soup from what was leftover after snapping off the tips. It was nice and healthy until I dumped in a great big dollop of leftover whipping cream.  Sure tasted good though. LOL.


Happy New Year.  May it bring many reasons to celebrate!


 

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MadMom's picture

(post #57052, reply #124 of 205)

I can post a weekly check-in thread, where people can share their triumphs, losses, gains, and thoughts.



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Not One More Dime! Not One More Life! Not One More Lie!

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helena's picture

(post #57052, reply #145 of 205)

Wow, 10 km three times a week is very impressive! But I do agree with you that the time is just not right to do that now, plus I wouldn't walk 10 km on my own in the dark, I'm way too chicken for that.


I *never* excercised growing up. I hated it with a passion. And I still don't love it, but I finally got a gym membership and have been keeping it up for the past two years. It's too expensive to not go, LOL! I like that I can do a number of things in the gym, I can take classes, or work out on my own using weights or cardio machines, and mixing it up a little helps with not getting bored too much. I started out on a (cheap) elliptical machine at home, in front of the TV. I just taped a show and watched it while excercising, and that helped a great deal as well.


About body image: I know that the media is forcing it on us, but I still think we should know better and use our (smart) heads more ;o). Do you find you can get through to the girls dealing with anorexia? I have a MIL with anorexic tendencies and I don't think that anything helps in getting through to her.

AJ12754's picture

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I do think it is so important to listen to our internal dialog with respect.  And if that dialog is a constant barrage of criticism (as it was with me during the bad years), I think it's important to do everything possible to turn down the volume so you can hear what you really need to listen to ...  the things and the people that support what you really want for yourself.


For me, staying off the scale was like turning down the volume.  The problem was not weighing per se -- it was that the number was blaring in my head the entire rest of the day.  It was drowning out other people and things -- including the little voice of my own that actually knew what was best for me all along.


"Truth is the engine of our judicial system." Patrick Fitzgerald

Cave obdurationem cordis

helena's picture

(post #57052, reply #146 of 205)

Again, you've worded perfectly what I am battling with. And I have thought about your words since reading them yesterday and I do believe that the scale is turning up the negative volume in my head as well. I will try to keep that factor out of the equation and see how I do.


Thanks so much for your insights, they really help.

AJ12754's picture

(post #57052, reply #148 of 205)

I'm so glad you found my experience helpful.  Good luck!


Today I am going to turn down the volume on that voice telling me to clean the house and get the Christmas stuff put away.   :-)


I got Nigella Lawson's How to Eat for Christmas and the kids are in school, hubby is out o' town and the easy chair, the book and a cup (actually many cups) of hot tea await.  It's the first day I have been alone in a month and I plan to savor it!


"Truth is the engine of our judicial system." Patrick Fitzgerald

Cave obdurationem cordis