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Tomcatt has passed on :-(

tcurda's picture

Too everyone....This is Hilly, Tom's wife. I'm sorry to let everyone know that Tom (ISO TomCat) passed away on Wednesday May 24th. He was admitted into the hospital on Tuesday May 16th. He had so wanted us to meet some of you and he shared stories. I'm so glad that he had made so many wonderful friends.

I miss him terribly. Thank you for all the support and kind words he has received while he bravely fought this horrible desease.

Hilly Curda

Tom aka tomcatt

Live today like there's no tomorrow.

Smile - People will wonder what you're up to.

Tom aka tomcatt

Live today like there's no tomorrow.

Smile - People will wonder what you're up to.


Tom aka tomcatt

Live today like there's no tomorrow.

Smile - People will wonder what you're up to.
madnoodle's picture

(post #32585, reply #1 of 50)

This is such very sad news.  Thank you for taking the time to let us all know.  I'm sure even writing the words must be difficult.  Take care of yourself, and know that a whole bunch of people all over the world were touched by your husband's gentle sense of humour, zest for life, and devotion to you and your family, and that we'll miss him.

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Gretchen's picture

(post #32585, reply #2 of 50)

We are so so sorry. There is never enough time. He was a great asset to this board and I know a wonderful person in your life. Take care.

Gretchen

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elizaram's picture

(post #32585, reply #3 of 50)

Oh Hilly, I am so sorry.


I have enjoyed getting to know Tom over the last year. His sense of humor, zest for life, and his unfailingly positive attitude always came through in his posts. I had so hoped he would pull through this, and hoped to meet him in person someday.


I know I'm not the only person here who will say that they've lost a good friend, even if they never actually met him.




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pamilyn's picture

(post #32585, reply #4 of 50)

Hilly, I don't know what to say. This is just horrible. Tom was an inspiration to everyone on this board. We will miss him terribly too. I am so, so sorry. Pamilyn

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shywoodlandcreature's picture

(post #32585, reply #5 of 50)

This is such sad news, but please find what comfort you can in knowing that Tom touched and inspired so many of us so often. He will be (he is) sorely missed here. Thank you for taking the time to let us know of his passing.





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SallyBR1's picture

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I am so deeply sorry.

You should know he touched the lives of many people here - his attitude, his sense of humor, his wisdom

We will never forget him.
Please accept my condolences, we've never met, but I admire how you helped Tom lived through his ordeal with this nasty disease.

 


 


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AJ12754's picture

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I am so very sorry.  I wish I could better express how sad this news makes me.  He was a special guy.

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ehBeth's picture

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Hilly, I'm very sorry to have read about Tom's passing. Many of us looked forward to catching up on his news here.

I will remember his tagline - and practice it.

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Live today like there's no tomorrow.

Smile - People will wonder what you're up to.tcurda

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fitzcindy's picture

(post #32585, reply #9 of 50)

I am soooo sorry.  He was an inspiration to all of us. 

TracyK's picture

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Hilly, I am so sorry for your loss. Tom was an inspiration to everyone, kind and positive, and the world is a better place for having had him. I hope you can find some measure of peace knowing what he meant to so many people.


 


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Ballottine's picture

(post #32585, reply #11 of 50)

I am so sorry to hear your news. I was so sure that he would beat his cancer. 


If you can, would you please share whatever details you like with us.  Is this too late to send flowers? Did he have a favorite charity?  How are you doing?  Did your daughter have a chance to get back from Korea?  Are you OK? 


I enjoyed his  posts and his feisty spirit so much. I will miss him.


 Bal


 


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So much to cook; so little time.

Astrid's picture

(post #32585, reply #12 of 50)

I am so sorry to hear of Tom's passing. He was a perfect and kind friend to many and I know you must miss him very much.
I find myself, still, in moments of grief and loneliness, wishing my own dear husband could still be with me. It has been almost two years since his sudden death.
I believe God will grant you strength and wisdom to go on, He did for me. It will be difficult and at times, very confusing and frustrating to have to handle matters all on your own, but people can help and are glad to, if you but ask. Make every effort to keep in contact with others and ask for help as soon as you need it. Don't hesitate to ask for help about anything that is troubling to you, even very personal problems. Others will understand and give you support and comfort.
I gained much comfort from going through photo albums and picking out my favorite photos, copying and enlarging them and keeping them on display on a bedroom bureau. It is for me a way of remembering by seeing, and comforts me when I feel so alone at the end of a hard day. I also found that friends enjoy seeing photos also, and enjoy sharing happy memories.
The empty spaces in the days are the hardest to get over, but the pain of absence fades, slowly, and wonderful memories return of happy times, along with deeper insights of love and special joys.

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Edited 5/27/2006 11:01 pm by Astrid

New Mexico home organic gardener Adopt the pace of nature; her secret is patience. Emerson
chiquiNO's picture

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Oh, Hilly......May God wrap you tightly in His arms right now and surround you with nourishing people to help you through this difficult time.  Tom was such a sweetheart and he so loved & admired YOU.  I was very touched how he described your strength and encouragement......what a loving husband.


Things will never be the same for you and your family and none of us can ever know exactly how you are feeling....loss is such a private thing.  But please know you and your children will remain in our thoughts and prayers and like Astrid said....please ask for help when you need it.  Sometimes people just don't know what to do or say at a time like this and by you asking it makes them feel like they are honoring Tom by helping all of you.


Tom touched many, many lives here....mine included.  His courage shamed me on occasion into seeing that my circumstances...no matter how difficult to me personally....were not that bad.  He had such a BEAUTIFUL outlook on things...it was truly inspirational.


He will be missed.


God Bless....Chiqui


 



Chiqui from way down yonder in New Orleans


Edited 5/27/2006 10:35 pm by chiquiNO

 

Heather's picture

(post #32585, reply #14 of 50)

Hilly, I'm so terribly sorry. I was counting on meeting you both on that trip to California that Tom talked about.
He was an amazing person--his strength, humor, charm and grace came through in every post. As so many people have said, he was an inspiration, especially in the way he fought his disease.
Take care of yourself, I'll be thinking of you.

samchang's picture

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So sorry to hear your--and our--loss. May he rest in peace, and thanks for all the courage he showed us all.

Syrah's picture

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Hilly. I am dreadfully sorry. May he rest in peace.

"The truth will set you free. But first, it will piss you off"
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MrsRussell's picture

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So sorry to hear such sad news -


May the Almighty comfort you, and give you strength to endure this difficult time.


Tom was truly an inspiration to us all.


Warmest regards,


shelly in Jerusalem

Wolvie's picture

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I am so very sorry to hear this news, Hilly. My condolences to you and your family. Tomcatt was so very special, and there are no really adequate words at this time.


My prayers will be with you.


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Cissytoo's picture

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Hilly, Tom has been and will continue to be, even now, an inspiration.  Please accept my sincere condolences on your loss.

Marcia's picture

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Thank you, Hilly, for letting us know. Tom will be missed and this must be a very difficult time for you. Please read Astrid's post carefully. She's been though the loss of a dear husband and her adivce may be of some help.


My thought and prayers are with you. Please try to keep in touch on the board if that's possible. It may help.

Lee's picture

(post #32585, reply #21 of 50)

Hilly, I am so saddened by this news.  Tom's enthusiasm and zest for life came through so clearly, and his positive attitude and sunny outlook were truly inspirational.  We've lost a friend.  My thoughts are with you and your family. 

Quilter's picture

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I am so very sorry for your loss.  I'm relatively new to this board, but when I read how much everyone admired him, I realize that he will truly be missed by many, many people.  My sincere sympathies to you and your family.

Mimi's picture

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I am so sorry to hear this sad news.  I always enjoyed his posts and will miss them. 


No one who is truly loved is ever lost.


mimi


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soccermom's picture

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Hilly, I'm so sorry; Tom's grace, humour, and dignity inspired me. I hope you can take some comfort in how many lives he touched.


Best wishes,


Karen


 


 

 

 

moxie's picture

(post #32585, reply #25 of 50)

Hilly, I am so sorry. When Tom posted about you, it was like listening to someone talk about a new bride. It was so clear how much he adored you.  My heart goes out to you. As others have said, he was a lesson to us all in living with courage and optimism even in the face of overwhelming obstacles.


God Bless.


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Syb's picture

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Hilly, this is such sad news.  Tom had an amazing spirit in spite of the cancer.  He was very fortunate to have had you standing by him.  And we were very fortunate to have had him with us on this board.

Regality's picture

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Deepest sympathy, Hilly.

 


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Jillsifer's picture

(post #32585, reply #28 of 50)

Hilly, I'm so sorry to hear about this devastating loss. Tom was a rare jewel and a source of strength and grace to so many of us. May he rest in peace.


And for yourself, please, always feel welcome here. We'd love to hear from you, whenever you feel like chiming in.


My prayers are with you.


 


 


 

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RuthWells's picture

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I am so shocked and saddened, Hilly.  May you find strength in friends and family during this sad, sad time.


 


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deejeh's picture

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Hilly, I am so very sorry for your family's loss.  As so many others have said, his attitude was an inspiration.  I've no doubt he'll be greatly missed by all who knew him, including his e-pals.


deej