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So Sad (post #33180)

The couple we usually have Thanksgiving with can't do it this year. They are going out of town. Just Willie and I......Mmmmm, maybe we will go out for dinner!! Or is that just not right? Pamilyn

The purpose of Art is washing the dust of daily life off our souls

The purpose of Art is washing the dust of daily life off our souls

Aberwacky's picture

(post #33180, reply #1 of 95)

Celebrate however you want! Thanksgiving is about giving thanks, after all.  We've just made it about eating and tend to forget about the thankful part.


Leigh


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RuthWells's picture

(post #33180, reply #2 of 95)

Having worked restaurant service on Thanksgiving and other holidays, I have to say that the customers sometimes get the raw end of the staff's frustration with having to work a holiday. : - /

I'm sure that this isn't universal, but something to look out for!

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pamilyn's picture

(post #33180, reply #4 of 95)

Thats so true!!

The purpose of Art is washing the dust of daily life off our souls

The purpose of Art is washing the dust of daily life off our souls

dilly's picture

(post #33180, reply #17 of 95)

I agree with you!  Why is it that every special occassion has to revolve around food?  We can't seem to celebrate without it.  Thanksgiving  in the past  has always meant that the females of the family spend the day (days and weeks before) cooking or worrying about what to cook, how to cook it, if it will be enough?  Comparing our meals to those pictured in glossy magazines.  The men of the family sit on their ___ and watch football, snacking on dips, chips and nuts.  Then it's a mad scramble to the table, a free-for-all, and 15 minutes later it's over.  Then the females start the cleanup process.  Little has changed, except that since I have been in charge, the men help out a lot!!!

TracyK's picture

(post #33180, reply #18 of 95)

Honestly, at it's most basic form (turkey, stuffing, potatoes, green veg, gravy), Thanksgiving dinner is pretty dead easy to cook. I can't say that it's ever been much of a source of stress in my family.


And before anyone asks, I've been helping prepare it practically since I was old enough to hold a spoon.



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Edited 10/4/2006 6:05 pm ET by TracyK

dilly's picture

(post #33180, reply #21 of 95)

Growing up, (and I always helped),  Thanksgiving was very stressful, nothing simple or basic about our dinners, very elaborate.  Not to mention all the silver polishing before hand, that was a mess!

Aberwacky's picture

(post #33180, reply #26 of 95)

About 12 years ago we started a new tradition in our family--the Thanksgiving Project.  Since there are usually lots of extra hands around, whoever hosts picks a project that needs doing and everyone pitches in to help (visitors also bring side dishes so that the host isn't overwhelmed in the kitchen).


The projects are typically low-skill, many-hands-makes-light-work types of things.


We've built doghouses and pens, moved brush and loads of firewood, painted numerous rooms, put in a beadboard ceiling, shingled a roof, shelled pecans, cleaned out an attic and a garage, and a few more things I've forgotten.


Older kids entertain younger ones, those less handy or not physically able to work on the project help in the kitchen and we all appreciate the holiday and each other a lot more than we used to.  It's something we all look forward to now.  And, as a bonus, hosting Thanksgiving is seen as a privilege, not a chore.


Leigh


How is it that we put man on the moon before we figured out it would be a good idea to put wheels on luggage?

"Happiness does not depend on outward things, but on the way we see them." 
-Leo Tolstoy
helena1's picture

(post #33180, reply #27 of 95)

What a wonderful tradition. I think working together creates a special bond. We helped my sister's family move a couple of week ago and worked our butts off, but we had the *best* time. I can see how project like yours make the holiday a lot more memorable (and enjoyable!)

Rhea's picture

(post #33180, reply #30 of 95)

What a great tradition!!! :)


Growing up Jewish, my family didn't really celebrate this holiday...there was only one Synagogue in our town and it was Orthodox....through the years many a Rabbi would come and go and with the new generation not being as religious, the Rabbi's inturn,even though still Orthodox, were more liberal in their thinking to suit our congregation. Sadly a few years back due to lack of members, most "old timers" now since passed and others simply moving to bigger cities, the Synagogue was torn down.


The last Rabbi to come and do our services always used to say that at Thanksgiving we ALL have someone or something to be thankful for......I alway remembered that...


The best part about new traditions is that they create the BEST memories!!! ..and besides all that glorious food!!!!!! yummmmmmmmm:)


edited to add...I think I might just have to adopt your great idea and have the BF fix my rear brakes before I have to do a Fred Flinstone.....LOL:)



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Edited 10/5/2006 5:07 pm ET by Rhea

I can't even afford the lifestyle I don't want...

Gretchen's picture

(post #33180, reply #43 of 95)

Growing up Jewish, my family didn't really celebrate this holiday...


I'd have to say I don't really understand this. In fact, I just about clobbered our second son when he was in high school and he asked his very good Jewish friend if she celebrated Thanksgiving! She gave him her good withering look that said clearly, get a life--of course we do!!!


Our churches do have community services--churches within our neighborhood have a service on a yearly rotating basis.  But in Charlotte, a VERY church oriented town, the congregations are slim.  It is not a religious holiday to me, other than the act of thankfulness.


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Syrah's picture

(post #33180, reply #44 of 95)

Isn't Thanksgiving non-everything? I've always thought it was essentialy a secular holiday.

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Gretchen's picture

(post #33180, reply #45 of 95)

Me too.  ;o)

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TracyK's picture

(post #33180, reply #46 of 95)

Probably because it is. ;-)

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Rhea's picture

(post #33180, reply #48 of 95)

..it's not that we were forbidden to celebrate it, but my family just did not make a bid deal of it....my Dad was raised in a pretty religious home and it was just not in our  traditional holiday rotation, I guess....-with Jewish holidays falling around the same time we were always busy with those.......sometimes I just think we  were just too full from eating then, that we had to take a break- LOL.


.....eek- we were never anti-thanksgiving, but I do know that thanksgiving in Canada is just not celebrated to the extreme  as it is in the US...in the US, thanksgiving retail sales are, I have been told, in line with X-mas sales-WOW!!!!


We celebrate the meal thing now since my Dad is a turkey lover and it's a great reason  to throw a wonderful dinner with great family and friends and shovel in the food...:)     


I can't even afford the lifestyle I dont' want...

I can't even afford the lifestyle I don't want...

mer's picture

(post #33180, reply #55 of 95)

"I do know that thanksgiving in Canada is just not celebrated to the extreme as it is in the US...in the US, thanksgiving retail sales are, I have been told, in line with X-mas sales-WOW!!!!"

I have never thought that Thanksgiving was at all a time for retail sales. Grocery store sales, certainly, but not retail. However, in addition to being a secular holiday, the day after Thanksgiving is also the first day of the Christmas rush. Because our US holiday is closer to Christmas, there is more of a push to buy all the presents for Christmas on one of the first available weekends of the Christmas season. In that respect, all retail purchases at Thanksgiving are early Christmas sales.

MadMom's picture

(post #33180, reply #56 of 95)

Actually, the day after Thanksgiving has become a major sale day, one of the biggest retail days of the year.  Obviously, most of the purchases are for Christmas, but that doesn't diminish the impact of the Thanksgiving Sales.



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Gretchen's picture

(post #33180, reply #59 of 95)

I took that as what Marcia was saying but I have never considered it a "Thanksgiving sale".


AND the year has FINALLY come--we have 5 full week-ends after Thanksgiving before Christmas this year!!  The years where it is the first day of Advent on Sunday after Thanksgiving just kill me!!  and it isn't really about shopping, etc. It's just getting the season "right".


We will have our family Early Christmas celebration in Charlotte this year. If our kids' house addition gets done and decorated to DDIL's specifications they will probably have it this year.  It is interesting and heartwarming to see this annual celebration move first from the original grandparents' home, to us the children and now to the grandchildren's very lovely homes.  This will be its 39th year.


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Marcia's picture

(post #33180, reply #60 of 95)

I wasn't considering Thanksgiving sales at all, but that many more families get together BECAUSE it is a secular holiday. That's my take on it, but it's a very personal one.

Gretchen's picture

(post #33180, reply #62 of 95)

Oh, I agree with you wholeheartedly. Certainly true for us.  My reply about the sales was more to MM.

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CulinaryArtist's picture

(post #33180, reply #57 of 95)

The day after T-day in retail was always called Black Friday, as it was the first day that many stores started operating in the black for the year!  They live for the fourth quarter which includes the Xmas holidays.  Years ago it was physically the busiest day of the year due to many people being off from work for the weekend and lots of shopping and window shopping started for the holidays.


The big Toy Store I used to work for changed the name of that Friday to Green Friday--indicating the "green" we'd be drawing in!  And opening at the ungodly hour of 6 a.m.!!  I really don't miss it!!


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mer's picture

(post #33180, reply #61 of 95)

Yes, I know all this.  But when she said "that thanksgiving in Canada is just not celebrated to the extreme  as it is in the US...in the US, thanksgiving retail sales are, I have been told, in line with X-mas sales-WOW!!!!"  she suggested that she thought that the retail sales had something to do with celebrating Thanksgiving.  The sales have nothing to do with celebrating Thanksgiving. 

Gretchen's picture

(post #33180, reply #63 of 95)

AND agree with you also!  It is just the juxtaposition of the time and holidays.  And I would rather take a beating than go even out on the roads on the day after T'giving!!  I did go to CompUSA one time for one thing that was too good to pass up.  It is probably obsolete by now.

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mer's picture

(post #33180, reply #64 of 95)

Thank you.  :)

Wolvie's picture

(post #33180, reply #76 of 95)

I categorically, absolutely, NEVER shop on the day after TG. I have enough gray hair. ;-)


 


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Gretchen's picture

(post #33180, reply #77 of 95)

Well, I certainly didn't get mine shopping then either. Where do you think it came from!    ;o)

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MadMom's picture

(post #33180, reply #78 of 95)

I'm convinced that hubbies and children give you gray hair.  After all, I certainly had none when I was single and childless, and look at me now!  So, to retaliate, I take my girls shopping on the day after Thanksgiving when I can.  I remember once we went to Best Buy.  They had some fantastic deals, and one girl stood in line while the rest of us went running around the store picking stuff up.  By the time we finished shopping, she was almost to the check out point.  Otherwise, we might have been there for days, LOL.



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Gretchen's picture

(post #33180, reply #79 of 95)

Yes, strategies are a necessity.

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TracyK's picture

(post #33180, reply #66 of 95)

Exactly.


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Rhea's picture

(post #33180, reply #92 of 95)

interesting....I just know from being in the retail biz for so many years, and having  worked with and known friends from the US, that for retailers the weekend around Thanksgiving is huge for them in sales....where as here in Canada we don't  see the same amount of sales until mid November-even though stores here have been set up with Christmas stuff for almost a month...funny how the same holiday is celebrated differently,( not pertaining to the sales issues).


Thanksgiving here just does not get the same amount of attention that it does in the US, ...although my friends from the Atlantic provinces do celebrate it in a big w

 


..."she suggested that she thought that the retail sales had something to do with celebrating Thanksgiving.  The sales have nothing to do with celebrating Thanksgiving. "


edited to add...I didn't mean to imply that the retail sales had anything to do with celebrating, I just meant that it(Thanksgiving) is a retailers dream in the US for the sales that come around that time of year... sorry for the confusion it seems to have caused....

 

 
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Edited 10/25/2006 8:16 pm ET by Rhea

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Adele's picture

(post #33180, reply #93 of 95)

Aha!  The Thanksgiving retail blitz here just may have to do with a lot of people having Friday off.  (This company is the first one I've ever had it with).  The stores go wild.  A lot open at 5 & 6 in the morning, long lines form earlier.  Sales galore, unbelievable prices on a lot of usually expensive items- computers, tv's and toys.  It amazes me watching the news that Friday night- fights, people getting run/walked over.  People have fun with it- familys/friends have it down pat, staying over Thursday, setting the alarm for 4 in the morning.  


Me?  Crossword in bed, good book on couch, get the picture?  LOL


 


But, but, it's SUPPOSED to taste like that!

But, but, it's SUPPOSED to taste like that!